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"A family residing in North London seeks an extraordinary and skilled instructor to assist their youngest child on his early path to growing into an English gentleman."

Upon seeing this post, you might easily overlook the term "beginning" as mere an expression.

Yet, it could be the most significant element of this unique job advert, as it attempts to find a tutor for a infant.

Many of responses have already been submitted since the anonymous family posted their request for the highly paid tutor, who has to be "a uniquely qualified person".

During the past few weeks, the post has received interest across the news, with many questioning why?

Forward-Thinking Method

Adam Caller, CEO and founder of an education consultancy, which is assisting the family in their quest, said that in spite of early doubt, he considered the idea "far sighted", and "advanced".

When he met the family, he mentioned they recognized the unconventional character of their request, and how early in age their son is.

However, they clarified that they "didn't want to wait any longer" to engage a tutor, as they had held off until their firstborn was five, and by that age "cultural bias had already set in".

What exactly did the family refer to by "cultural bias"?

It's "everything", the expert responded. "The way you eat, how you speak".

He explained the older sibling had picked up "extremely delicate, body language" from the family, and had taken on their cultural norms. The family informed him they hoped to prevent this pattern to repeat itself with their younger child.

The strategy: To engage a English tutor, who must speak with RP, to shape the baby right from the beginning.

Subtle Influence

"A lot of the development at the beginning here is kind of osmotic," stated the expert.

It's by means of this subtle influence that the family are expecting the child will acquire the English characteristics they aim to impart.

He said the tutor must be someone who attended "the appropriate educational institutions – the same kinds of schools as the family hope to send their son to".

"The tutor must be the right kind of person, they'll be carrying out things they aren't even aware they're doing, simply by nature," he said.

Money No Object

The family explained to Adam the chosen tutor should preferably also have knowledge of or interest in horse riding, skiing, artistic pursuits and instrumental training so as to shape the child in a diverse set of interests.

Additionally though, he explained the family wanted the tutor to enrol the child on a variety of courses so the child would be "pony-riding and picking up an tool by the time they are around three years old".

In the family's view, guiding their son develop into a "UK sophisticate" will bring about accomplishment and provide access.

"Taking into account the rights and wrongs of that, because it's undoubtedly a social class indicator," he adds.

Yet, notwithstanding all this guidance in "English culture", could the child adopt so-called cultural leaning from the multicultural family he is raised by anyway?

"Absolutely", replied the CEO. "They realize this could fail, but they've simply adopted the view of, 'we should try and let's go as soon as we can', because the cost of it is not a concern," he stated.

Overly Optimistic

Several in the private teaching field who share similar concerns.

Peter Cui, head and founder of a tutoring service, who also offer personal educators, wrote that "the journey of embracing two identities, or in fact, discovering oneself, is something that must be experienced personally, not manufactured."

Peter explained that he had emigrated from Asia to the United Kingdom at the time of seven, and had been educated knowing and practicing two backgrounds. He continued to be educated at Cambridge University.

"The notion that one individual can serve as a living vessel of Britishness, a person who can somehow transfer the characteristics of a UK sophisticate upon a infant child, strikes me as optimistic and unrealistic," he stated.

"In my experience, having a typically English tutor from babyhood will not instantly produce the goal they hope for.

"I did not have such a figure, and however I have been fortunate enough to enjoy numerous of the experiences they aspire for their son."

He stated: "The truth is, self-identity should not be forced from the external environment; it must be embraced, and it must be internally driven."

Acquiring Englishness

Of course, English culture is something the expert believes can be taught – and sold.

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